If you have a teenager, you’ve noticed that girls’ Halloween costumes today tend to be a lot sexier than when we were in high school. A lot of girls look like Playboy bunnies in outfits that are tight, short, and low-cut.

What does your teen think about this?

If you’ve got a son, he probably enjoys the show. But how would he feel about his sister going out like that? How do guys talk about girls who dress for that kind of attention?

If you’ve got a daughter with a great body, she may enjoy the attention she gets when she shows it off. But does she really feel comfortable in something revealing—or maybe a little too exposed? What if your daughter doesn’t think her body is “good enough” for that kind of costume? How does wearing sexy outfits—or not wearing them—reflect the social hierarchy at school? What does it mean to dress in an attention-seeking way?

What does the hot-costume trend say about gender relations? Why it is somehow expected that girls will dress scantily when guys can wear whatever they want? Are girls under some unspoken obligation to be eye candy for random guys? How does your daughter feel about that? Does she want to hang around guys who value her more for her appearance than her heart and mind? What would it be like to wear something less sexy but more funny, more imaginative, more true to who she is?